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"Just What Was
I Thinking?"

by Jeanne Simmerman

Why did I choose to come out so early?
I was so warm, so comfy and tight.
I should have just stayed for a little bit longer
But no, I insisted on coming that night.

I heard my Mom as she moaned and was crying,
“It’s early—too early, he can’t come out now,
He’s little and frail and will have trouble breathing,”
But it happened—the birth—I don’t know just how.

How it happened, what caused it, it just doesn’t matter,
What followed was chaos, I really must tell
My life started off insecurely and crazy
Again though, I ask you, on this I just dwell…

Why did I choose to come out so early?
I was so warm, so comfy and tight.
I should have just stayed for a little bit longer
But no, out I came, and oh! What a sight!

They called out for help and they ran for the warmer,
The nurses and doctors gave all that they could.
It’s simply amazing how well they maneuver
When a baby comes early it just isn’t good.

They came at me with needles, with probing and tubes
There was tension—such tension as they did what they do
And some uttered prayers for the battle I gave them,
But steadfastly I stayed, thanks to more than a few.

Life wasn’t easy for weeks into months,
I needed some time to gain strength and some weight.
Machines were my lifelines, my breathing and food
But I fooled them, I did it, and I slipped through that gate.

My memories at first were so plastic and blurry,
So many procedures, equipment and stuff
I just wanted my Mommy and Daddy to hold me
But I needed machines, and that part was tough.

In spite of all that, the technical part,
The handling was tender and it nurtured me so.
There were persons to love me and treat me with mercy.
I needed this love, as those people know.

My Mom was so great; she sat by the hour
With a breast pump connected to give me some food.
It nourished my body, my being, and soul
And then I was growing, which heightened my mood.

The doctors—terrific, always there for my needs,
The nurses—outstanding, what else can I say?
They fed me and bathed me, and when no one was looking,
They stole a small kiss, but I kept them at bay!

That’s all part of a picture of progress and healing
Technical, practical, natural, too,
I grew big and strong and eventually left them
But I keep a warm spot for those people, I do.

The big event came and I got to go home,
To my parents, my brother and sisters galore
But I still ask the question, still ponder anew
Was it rational thinking that I chose to ignore?

Oh, why did I choose to come out so early?
I was so warm, so comfy and tight.
I should have just stayed for a little bit longer
But I came forth and conquered, with all of my might!

 

 
  Story by Janet Hiller
   

After five years of planning and fundraising, Missoula’s Ronald McDonald House broke ground in the spring of 2005.

Five years can seem like a very long time, and it certainly has at times to all of the people who have worked so hard and donated so generously to make the new Ronald McDonald House of Missoula a reality. But with construction of the house slated to begin this spring, the predominant mood now is one of excitement and anticipation–and gratitude to all who have helped bring this project to fruition.
In early 2000, Ronald McDonald House Charities, based in Oakbrook, Illinois, gave its approval for the Missoula house after studying the need for such a facility in this area. It would be the 208th house worldwide and only the second in Montana. (The Ronald McDonald House in Billings has been in operation since 1982.) Approval from the global charity was based on Missoula’s evolution over the years into a major center for neonatal and pediatric care in western Montana. Each year more than two thousand babies and children are admitted to Missoula hospitals, with an average length of stay of 4.5 days. Many of these patients come from as far away as Libby to the north, Bozeman to the east and Salmon, Idaho, to the south. And many of them are in the hospital for much longer than four or five days; some extremely premature babies may remain hospitalized for up to four or five months, causing tremendous strain on families, both emotionally and economically.
This is where the house comes in. The mission of all Ronald McDonald Houses is to “provide a home away from home for families of critically ill and hospitalized children.” In recent years, that mission has expanded to include women with high risk pregnancies who need to be in close proximity to a hospital, in case an emergency need for delivery arises. But a Ronald House (as they are often affectionately called by those who work and stay in them) is more than a place to eat and sleep. It is a place where families can share with other families in similar circumstances their hopes and fears, their good days and bad days—where they can support each other in ways that other people cannot. Although most homes charge a nominal lodging fee, it is usually on a sliding fee scale, and no family is ever turned away because of inability to pay. Having a Ronald McDonald House in Missoula will help lessen the burden on hundreds of Western Montana families each year, families that are already trying to cope with the stress of having a sick child.
Once approval for the house was obtained, Community Medical Center donated the land upon which to build it. Which is within walking distance from the hospital. Then the work began. A committee of volunteers was formed to work with Oz Architects of Missoula to design the house. (So far, Oz has donated thousands of hours of professional time to this project.) Many of the committee members, as well as other volunteers, made site visits to other Ronald McDonald Homes to get ideas on what has worked well in other places, and what pitfalls to avoid. An operating council was formed and charged primarily with fundraising for the house. Owner/operators of McDonald’s restaurants around the entire state launched promotions to help raise the necessary money, accounting for over $200,000 to date. A few months ago, following a bidding process, Gordon Construction was chosen to build the house and groundbreaking occured April, 2005.
The 13,000-square-foot house will have eight family suites, each large enough to accommodate four to six family members and each with a private bathroom. In addition, there will be “common areas,” including a large kitchen where families can prepare meals, a dining room, a playroom, a living room, a library/computer room and laundry facilities. Space has also been allocated for staff support, volunteer activities (which most houses heavily depend on) and a conference room for group meetings and certain public functions.
The success of this project is a tribute to the generosity of Montanans—to the hundreds of individuals and businesses who have donated their time and money to see this house built. Perhaps, when you think about it, five years isn’t really that long a time to spend on something that will benefit countless Montana families for decades to come.

 

 
   
The Ronald McDonald House
of Missoula has raised
1.9 of the 2.6 million
dollars needed for construction and two years of operating expenses.

To help complete this project,
please send donations to:
RMHC-Missoula
P.O. Box 1119
Missoula, MT 59806

For Further information about the project, contact Peter Benson, Executive Director:
(406) 541-7646.